I hate tidying up. Really, truly, hate it. But annoyingly I really like living in a space that isn’t full of clutter.
As I’ve tried to explain too many times to count, I don’t TRY to make things messy – chaos just follows me. I don’t deliberately leave things lying around, I’m just absorbed by an idea and don’t notice them lurking. I wasn’t born organised – and I am beginning to believe that the world can be divided into those who can stay tidy effortlessly and those who can’t stay tidy even if they make themselves miserable spending every spare moment trying to tidy up. (I suspect this effect is immeasurably worse if your partner/children/housemates/visitors are also messy by nature!)
My whole life has been lived in creative chaos – from my room as a child to my spaces at uni, from half the flat I shared with Julia to the whole house and garden I currently live in.
*I* know where everything is, it’s a filing system unique to me and I usually know exactly where to locate a specific item (under the bed, sideways a bit, behind that bag – there you go! Oh, you meant the other one? Basket on the windowsill, about a third of the way down, in a pink zipper bag. Sorted.) Until I tidy up, or worse, someone helps me tidy up, and then I have months of frustration because I can’t find anything.
I am naturally untidy and unashamedly lazy when it comes to housework – I will do the bare minimum to keep my house nice, and am easily overwhelmed by situations like my current one, when my house is filled with boxes and tools and goodness knows what else, in preparation for modernisation (plumbing and electrics. Necessary but oh-so-disruptive).
Much to the bemusement of the generation above mine, I have always unapologetically chosen fun things over housework for my entire life. Hoovering vs creating? No chance I’m going to pick hoovering (though the kittens’ faces when I do switch the Dyson on is unfailingly hilarious).
I don’t remember a time when I didn’t collect things that made me happy or curious, and I have always believed I’m happy surrounded by my precious possessions. I just happen to have a lot of possessions which mystify everyone else as to why they’re precious!
But as I pack up everything I own into boxes so I can more easily shunt them around the house during the electrical works (I lose either Luna or Clover behind or in boxes on a daily basis right now), I find myself wondering whether I actually, truly, need all this stuff.
But how in hell do I even start to thin it down? (actually that’s a bit too melodramatic – I’m already two bin bags of clothes, three boxes of books and several bridesmaid’s dresses down… but the rest of it is overwhelming.)
Marie Kondo is the author of the bestselling book oddly entitled “The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up”. I was initially hugely entertained by this – how could tidying up be fun, magic or remotely life changing? It’s just one of those endless, thankless, reoccurring chores. Right?
Well, wrong, apparently. David over at Raptitude reckons she’s got a good point and that her method is intrinsically different from most. She also acknowledges that very few of us were ever taught to tidy up – only told that it had to happen. (No blame intended to our parents – they weren’t taught by their parents either). She also comes highly recommended by my circle of friends who travel the world constantly and work as they go – some of whom had even more stuff than me before they took up that wandering lifestyle!
Marie teaches an all-at-once, drastic method of decluttering your living space and your life, using intuition rather than logic or emotion to choose what stays and what goes. I’ve not read the book yet but I’m aware of the underpinning concept of “does this spark joy?” – if so, it stays, if not, it goes.
And that, I think, is what’s finally got through and made me willing to give it a go. My intuition is strong and well developed; I have spent immense amounts of time on getting to know myself, what makes me tick, what makes me happy; and I know exactly what kind of life I want to live. Joy is something I wholeheartedly approve of and seek in my day to day life.
Perhaps having less stuff will give me more time and space, both mental and physical, to continue creating & living the life I choose. Perhaps this book will help me get there. And given I have to handle every single thing I own over the next few weeks anyway, it would make sense to turn it into an experiment alongside the Raptitude one and see if it makes a blind bit of difference to my lifelong messiness.
And if it works, my Mum (one of the world’s loveliest but also tidiest people, to whom my clutter is befuddling in the extreme) can sit back and smile, thinking that it’s owning a house that’s done the trick. As long as she’s happy, I don’t mind!
So. Ramble over, what am I actually going to do?
Buy Marie Kondo’s book (on Kindle, of course)Read the book- Apply Marie’s concepts to my belongings as I pack them
- Live in unintended minimalism while the modernisation work is completed
- Move all my stuff back into the correct rooms and out of boxes and hopefully never have a messy house again
Hmm. I’ll keep you posted…
With love and unicorns,
Carla xx
Edit: I read and started applying Marie’s methods last night. I’m another bag of clothes down and can see my bedroom floor for the first time since I started packing…
OMG I need to read that book! I am NOT good at tidying! Stuff just….accumulates!
Laura xx
Doesn’t it just!! Definitely worth a read – and loving your new site! (But then I would, with a kitty called Luna…!!) Keep me posted! xx
Since moving in to my own house the level of general detritus I’ve accumulated has become quite staggering, and the only way I can deal with it is to “blitz” a room at a time.
This basically involves me starting at one end of a room and ruthlessly tidying everything up, armed with a passionate zeal and some bin bags. The problem is this has to be done by me on my own, otherwise I get rather annoyed…
This is how I’ve always tackled tidying when clutter level gets out of hand – but I always get distracted by a letter or a book or something halfway through, and then I end up with a room that’s even worse than when I started. But yes, I can’t cope with other people helping me tidy and needing to narrate as they go along… 🙂
I read another blog talking about this book recently!With our big move I’m already going through that process through necessity but finding it quite freeing. Charities have got lots of donations, the wheely bin is full and we’ve made some paper money on eBay. Car boot sale this weekend!
Ooh I can imagine moving abroad is one of the best ways to really decide what you want and don’t want in your life… do you have limits on how much you can take with you? Good luck for the car boot!
I’m what you’d call a ‘fake tidy’-person. Everything looks sort of orderly on the surface but when you open a cupboard…let’s just say it’s not that uncommon to have at least two objects falling out, reaching for freedom.
I’ve heard of the Kondo method and initially I was interested (I really like how she makes you understand that there is no shame in throwing away gifts as they have served their purpose of already) until I heard she advises to rip important pages of a book and throw the rest away which is sacrilege to a book lover like me. So nope, not for me I guess. Though I do like her method of folding and stacking shirts and I do want to try that one day.
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Oh Kristien, I’m sure we were twins in a previous life! I physically flinched at that part (I used to be a librarian, and part of the reason I have so many books is that I used to rescue piles of them at a time from the “to be pulped” bin as I couldn’t bear the sacrilege of killing a book), but the rest of her methods are actually quite sensible and do seem to work. I’ll apply the same rules to this as I do to all my self development work – I take what works for me and ignore the rest 🙂
(So while I can totally see the logic of greeting your house when you come in from work, I can’t realistically see me thanking my handbag for its hard work each day, and I am never, ever going to rip up a perfectly good book… but horses for courses, I guess!)
I need to read that book!Thank you.
Good book. I like it. Thanks